So you finally did it!!!
So, you finally did it; you made the move. You packed up, left home, left family, left friends, left everything that was familiar to you and moved to a brand-new place. Now what? Well now it’s time to start fresh, start all over again. New job, new friends, new coffee shop, new route to work, new grocery store. In fact, EVERYTHING is new. If you’re like me, that all sounds a little overwhelming. And of course, you might be thinking, how long it will take before this place starts to feel like home. Well, the fact of the matter is that the new place will never feel like the old home you just left. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it’s the truth. New is not familiar. Old is familiar. Old is comfort and routine. And the challenge for many new town newbies is that idea that you can create all that is comfortable and familiar from your old life, and manifest that into your new life. Well, that’s not scientifically possible. Unless your Doc, from Back To The Future and you’ve got a time machine. But I am here to help you. And to tell you that all is not lost. So, before you start feeling like you just made the wrong decision by moving, before you start feeling stuck, before you spend all of your money and miles on flying or driving back home every weekend, let me help you make the shift from foreign to familiar. And before you know it you’ll be feeling like one of the locals. Because sometimes there is nothing worse than feeling like the new guy or girl in town. In this book you will discover helpful tips for finding ways to fit in to your new surroundings. Shoot, you may even rediscover old passions or try some new hobbies. To say the least, you will not leave this book without a few new ways to meet new people and explore your new city with excitement. So, strap on your seat belt it’s going to be a bumpy ride. But before we begin let me tell you a little about myself, and why I even bothered to write this book. I have lived in seven states (voluntarily), and even a few countries. So, when it comes to being the new girl in town, I could write the book. Get it! And even when I still lived with mom, we moved every one to two years around southern California. So, in a sense my mom was grooming me to become a wanderer from ripe age of about 11 years old. In those early years it was hard for me to adjust. When you’re a kid, your life depends on who your friends are, and when you have to change them as often as I did, it became a little overwhelming. People used to joke and tell my mom that they always wrote her down in their address book in pencil. By the time I moved out on my own at 18 years old, I was a pro at moving and making new friends. And that behavior translated over to my work life as well. I’ve had just about as many new jobs as I have had new addresses. So, making new friends at work became a cinch as well. I wasn’t always able to come back home for holidays, but I have never spent a holiday alone. Building community wherever I’ve has always been priority one for me, because it is crucial to my survival in new towns. What I hope for you is that you will not let a year pass by only to look back at time wasted, when you could have been out exploring, meeting people and making a home for yourself. You know that old saying, “Home is where your heart is”, and that couldn’t be truer. If your heart is constantly yearning to go back home, you will never succeed in your new place and possibly miss out on the best times of your life. If you have picked up this book, then it is safe to assume that you are someone who has just moved to a new city and you are looking for ways to help ease into your new life. Or you’re one of my friends #iappreciateursupport . But seriously if you are reading this book then that tells me that you are hopeful and smart. It is also probably safe to assume that you are an adventurer. It takes a lot of guts to pick up everything and go somewhere else. Maybe you did it alone, maybe you followed your spouse because they took a new job, or maybe drama and chaos in your old life had built up so much that the only way to change your circumstances was to change your physical address. Whatever the case I applaud you, and my heart goes out to you. It is going to take some time to overcome the newness, but I have some encouraging news for you; nothing last forever and you are never stuck. If you took the leap to move to a new place, then you have already proved that you can never be stuck in your circumstances. I just need you to give me the next thirty days. I promise you that at the end of the thirty days, if you take everything that I am giving to you, you will be thriving and no longer surviving. I have put my heart and soul into this, in hopes that others will not have to go through the bumps and bruises I have endured. Let this be the beginning of a new chapter in your life, and you have control over the outcome. You have control over your ability to fail or succeed. So, my first challenge to you is a question. Just one. Simple. Question. Are you ready? You’re going to want to write this down. What do you want your life to look like one year from now?